When you are pregnant its like a built in conversation piece. "When are you due?" "Do you know if it's a boy or a girl?" etc etc. I don't mind these questions in the least! I am an attention-whore and I am not ashamed of it. To get those out of the way, for those who are curious, Boy due August 22 (but if my suspicions are right he won't make me wait that long)
The following however, I do not appreciate and will no longer be responding to politely:
1 - "Oh my, it's getting close! Are you scared?"
No, I am not scared. Not only have I been there before but I believe that labour is an awesome journey ending with the most beautiful sight and greatest love you've ever seen. Yes, complications can happen, no labour isn't "easy", yes it could be long, yes it could be very painful, but why in the world would I want to tarnish my excitement about meeting my son with such negative feelings. I remember every detail of the birth of my daughter and no amount of pain can overshadow the immense joy I felt when I laid eyes on her.
2 - "You'll be so stressed! How will you handle two???"
Seeing as no first time mother has ever had a baby before (weird that I need to point that out) they don't know how they will handle ONE! Guess what! They make it work. So I don't know what two will be like but I will make it work the only way I know how and that it by letting my children guide me. Motherhood is a learning process and one that is constantly evolving. Even if I pretended to have ideas on how I might handle it, my new little baby and my beautiful toddler may have their own ideas.
3 - "You must be tired of being pregnant!"
Why? It's not the most comfortable way to spend nine months but what magic it is. Someone very close to me, who tragically suffered 4 miscarriages and had 4 successful, but complicated pregnancies, helped me put it into perspective. This pregnancy, my back hurts, my pelvic bone feels like its gonna snap, my nausea never quite went away, I am exhausted, I get a lot of stomach pain, heartburn, indigestion, swollen feet etc. But I'm still pregnant. Imagine what that means to someone who has lost so much. To still be pregnant, to still have a beautiful healthy baby growing inside of you. Now that I am pregnant for the second time and I know how amazing a mother's love can be for her child I find it even harder to complain. When my little man is making life unbearable I joke to myself about how much energy he'll have, or if he'll be a picky eater, or if he'll be stubborn like his daddy. All pregnant women have rough days, but try to think of the magic that comes along with it, don't just dwell on the bad. I am not tired of being pregnant just as I will never tire of being a mother, because my little man still needs me.
4 - Stranger speaking to my daughter "You're whole world is about to get turned upside down!"
Again with the negative, maybe this new baby will be the best thing to ever happen to her! Having a baby is a joyous occasion and should not be seen in any other light. Why not ask her if she's excited, or tell her how great it will be to have a little buddy right in the house. Telling her that he world is about to get turned upside down is like telling her that her mommy won't love her anymore, or she will no longer get any attention. Maybe your mom didn't love you stranger but I am gonna do my darndest to show BOTH my children everyday how amazing and important they are to me.
5 - ANYTHING to do with size or looks
I feel amazingly sexy, beautiful and confident while I am pregnant. I wear my big ol' belly like a badge of honour. There is NOTHING more beautiful than someone bringing life into the world. (It might be tied with a breastfeeding woman but thats another blog) I love my body pregnant. I would walk around in a bikini all day and not feel uncomfortable in the least. I am lucky and get a lot of compliments while I am pregnant, including that my belly is amazing and that I should be pregnant all the time. It's just something you hear all the time with pregnancy "You're huge!" and "You must be ready to pop" and "Baby is not being very nice" Not only do I believe people forget how big you can get by the end, but EVERYONE has a different way of growing in pregnancy, sometimes even baby to baby. If it's inappropriate to say to a non-pregnant lady, you should probably sip your lips here too.
Pregnancy is in every way beautiful and should be treated as such. Don't try to make me hate pregnancy cuz I've got news for you. I'm having as many babies as I can and I will enjoy every minute of it.
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